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From Husband of a Nurse

Why should I marry a nurse?

Picking a life partner is one of the most important decisions that one has to make in their life. A life partner is exactly what it sounds like – for life! A nurse makes a best friend. Now, there are a lot of divorces and remarriages in our society. People often do not take the time to evaluate themselves to know what they want from life. They also do not share the results of their evaluations with the person they are considering as a life partner. It’s important to note that life adds its corrections. Unexpected circumstances challenge relationships and life choices. These circumstances often change one’s likes and hobbies. Additionally, we as humans constantly uncover new potential and talents. This happens throughout different life stages. These stages change our likes, hobbies, and how we like to spend our time.  

Healthy Relationship  

One of the important aspects of each human being’s existence is professional occupation. Despite others’ opinions about their inner self, your tasks for forty or more hours a week shape you. This shaping effect is beyond our imagination. The occupation does not stop at forty hours a week. We need to prepare for our jobs. This includes preparing food, washing clothes, thinking about what to wear, and shopping for clothes. We also need food, Tupperware, and a means to commute to work. Maintaining the vehicle and/or public transportation passes is also necessary. All of that takes time – in my case, the commute alone takes about an extra hour per day. Everything else accumulates over time. It’s just like the small subscriptions we are charged for every month. These are convenient digital services that we love and enjoy. There are one hundred and sixty-eight hours in the week. We subtract a least of fifty-six hours of sleep. This leaves us with one hundred and twelve hours. Then we subtract the bare least of forty-five hours for work and commute, which will leave us with sixty-seven hours. If we include all of the other preparations mentioned above, it will easily add up to another 7 hours. This leaves us with only sixty hours per week. It’s important to note that many people work from home. This arrangement reduces their commute and preparation time. Nonetheless, the majority of people do not work from home. The people who work from home save a little bit of time for commute and prep. Still, it does not change the overall aspect of being shaped by your occupation.

   

Nurses are True Partners 

We often do not consider our partner’s and our own occupation when choosing a life partner. On the other hand, we focus too much on marrying someone with a specific occupation. The wish to marry someone with a specific occupation often is driven by financial greed. Nevertheless, it does not always translate to that. Some people want to marry a mechanic. This is to make sure their vehicle maintenance needs are taken care of. Others want a construction worker so that the house will be well maintained. Everyone has their own reasons and desires. It is important to consider that occupation can change due to the injury. It also change because of the slow economy in that area. Additionally, the location that you are presently at or will be in your future can affect occupation. With that in mind, we should always remember that the former occupation has shaped that person. It influences who they are. They will use it as a foundation for anything else they decide to do in their lives. For instance, if the person is in the military, they are trained to have things in order and planned. They have a strategy, are observant, and endure challenges. They apply such behavior in their professional life and personal life to themselves and those around them. Their caring character know what a true love is. She takes care of me and the kids when we are sick. She knows what to ask and gets everything we need at the doctor’s visit.

Just like any other professional occupation medical profession shapes a person to a specific behavior and way of thinking. Not all medical professions are the same, despite sharing some similar traits. Like many other fields one goes through stages to achieve a level or a title in their field. Nurses are medical professionals. They are specifically trained to support the doctor. They have enough training and authority to take charge of the doctor’s orders. Unlike many other professionals, they must confirm their knowledge with a higher medical authority each year. They can only practice within the physical state in which they live. If a nurse switches states, they must re-certify their knowledge with the medical state board in the new state. This is necessary to continue working as a travel nurse. I believe that nurses should adhere to this behavior at work. They need to be limited to doctors’ orders. Nurses must understand their limits when adhering to procedures instead of creating new ones for the patient, unlike doctors.

Each profession enables a person to recognize major problems quickly. Nurses are not an exception to that rule. A nurse can quickly assess whether you are dying or you are going to be fine. A nurse will evaluate your decision to make sure it is moral and ethical. A nurse won’t baby you around, but let you be an adult in the relationship. A nurse will look after your health and promote healthy choices and behavior in all aspects of life. A nurse will know what to do when you or any family member is sick. They are prepared for whatever disease life will throw at you. 

In conclusion, one’s occupation is important to consider when marrying someone. It shapes the person’s behavior toward people. It also affects things that surround them. It also has an impact on how and what decisions this person will make. Love encompasses many aspects. Thus, occupation should be considered. Yet, it does not become the main driving force when deciding whether to marry someone. Nonetheless, marrying a nurse is the best decision you can make in your life. Nurses are caring, kind, and supportive. They can also take a lead if necessary.

Benefits of Marrying a Nurse

She knows when to go to the Emergency Department.  I have taken her to the Emergency Department a few times.  I ended up at the Emergency Department myself too.

Higher Income – I have to admit that she was earning a higher income.  Higher income allowed her to work part-time.  During though times, we survived because of her higher income.

Professional Help – if you need a dressing change, you will get professional help.

Advantages of Nurse Partners

• Amazing mother – She takes care of our kids when they are sick.  She is taking them to the doctor when needed.  After a 4-wheeler fell on our son. She took him to orthopedic urgent care.  At urgent care the doctor confirmed that they is no fracture.  She insisted that the doctor orders more detailed imaging, an MRI.  MRI confirmed a fracture of the leg in multiple places. 
• Sticky notes – she always leaves me reminder notes. I hardly forget anything. True love often displayed in sticky notes.
• Clean Home – she is always freaking out for the clean house.  The house needs to be “germ-free.” Everyone needs to wash their hands after returning from anywhere at the end of the day. “Don’t transfer germs into the clean house,” she would say.
• Flexible Work Schedules – Luckily, nurses can have flexible schedules. The hospital schedule is the worst with long work schedule.  That’s why my wife is not working at the hospital.  She is now working in the clinic with the same office hours as mine.  (I work in IT in a different company). This way, we have time for each other and adequate family time.  Work schedules is important in healthy relationships.  I am glad my wife is not working the night shift as other nurses at the hospital are. 

Things I wish I Knew Before Marrying a Nurse.

• She is constantly diagnosing me. Her ritualistic way is to find diseases I don’t have.
• Little things matter to her. “One apple a day keeps the doctor away. Little things you contribute to your health keeps you healthy longer,” she tells me during dinner time.
• The biggest challenge is staying away from fast food, soda, sweets, etc. –  ALL UNHEALTHY GOOD STUFF I LOVE. I still eat my good stuff secretly when she is sleeping.
•  Long days – nurses work long-hour shifts.  I am glad my wife is not working 12-hour shifts.
• Good reason – everything needs a good reason for her.  Anything we do has to have a reason.  We can’t do anything out of the blue, spontaneously, for no reason.
• It is a big deal for her if I eat just before bedtime.  She watches over me constantly.  She is making sure that “I eat healthy.”
• Nurse sleeps constantly. She is always sleeping.  She always wants to sleep.  I have limited time with to her to discuss things.  She is either busy working or is taking care of the kids.
• A nurse requires a good night’s sleep.  “Lives of people are in my hands.  I need to be sharp at work.  I need to be interacting with staff members, ” she says.
  Long time (It takes way too long to finish nursing school).  It feels as if she were in school for nursing forever, she would say.
• Years of rigorous training’s wife was in school for too long.  I had to step in and help with the kids, grocery shopping.  It all paid off at the end though.